Jake's tics seem to last about three weeks on average. Meaning when a tic appears we can be pretty sure it will be phased out within a month. There's obviously no rhyme or reason for this, that's just how it is.
One tic that wants to stay though...well it's a fun one.
And no, I'm not talking about the word BIRD. I'm talking about that lovely digit that sprouts out of the middle of our hand. The one we all love to hate. The dreaded middle finger. When Jake's around, everything gets flipped off. The cats, the computer, the trees. Sometimes even nothing at all.
He's actually pretty good about not doing it in public. I don't know if it's a conscious thing or not but I suspect that he tries to hold it in. Because when we hit the car after being in a store it comes out full force.
There are times when he brings out the big guns too. Curse words. He doesn't say them at school somehow but when he's home, they come pouring out. And I let them. Now you might judge me because of that and I'm really okay with that. I try not to ask my son to be something that he's not. When we are in the privacy of our own home or the car, as long as he's respectful I let it go. Because I know he isn't saying it to be rude or mean.
Even when he slips in public, I just ignore it and move on. To point it out or say something will just compel him to do it more. I know people see and I'm sure they're thinking horrible things about it. But I find that the further we go into this adventure, the less I seem to care what others think.
I always try to remind people to think about what Jake goes through. He can only escape his tics when he sleeps. And unfortunately for him, he doesn't require a lot of sleep. =) For a lot of people this puts things into perspective. For those that don't get it...well they just don't get it. And that's unfortunate for them.
"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who mind don't matter. And those who matter, don't mind." - Theodor Seuss Geisel
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